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How to drive your husband crazy

MiscellaneousChristina GavendaComment

1. Decide that your discipleship group (like a Bible study group) should host a dinner. 2. Group decides it should be a community dinner.

3. You suggest a benefit dinner.

4. Decide it’s too big for you to plan so hand it over to more skilled planning hands.

5. Head up all decoration and oversee dinner set up while juggling said group, wedding invitation design for SIL, a home, 2 small children and secretarial work for husband’s business.

Shaken, not stirred.

He’s a patient man, but even patient men have their limits. I’ve gotten better at saying “no” recently. Having a second child has forced some sense of moderation. I’ve also been asking myself why I said yes, and what is making it hard to say no... I had been thinking where I wanted to go with this- I said I would give another stab at being a regular blogger. However, most blog are lame and the rest of this post fit in to the “lame” category.

The short answer of why it’s hard to say no, why I’m willing to make my family miserable or drive myself crazy to make something “perfect” and "beautiful" is this:

I make it about me.


Mom guilt.


I did it.

It’s all about me. Sometimes I hear that ugly voice motivating me, whispering, “you’ll never be as good as them. No one will ever love you once they know you.” These words spoken to me by one who was meant to be trusted... listening to them is an excuse to serve myself. I am free. Christ has set me free. To live any other way is make myself a slave again to sin. It’s to pick up the shackles and clamp them on myself. So since this post is about forgetting yourself, I think I’ll leave you with the words of someone else and ask you where do you need to be laying down your yolk and picking up his light and easy one?

Freedom in Christ

5 It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.

2 Mark my words! I, Paul, tell you that if you let yourselves be circumcised, Christ will be of no value to you at all. 3 Again I declare to every man who lets himself be circumcised that he is obligated to obey the whole law. 4 You who are trying to be justified by the lawhave been alienated from Christ; you have fallen away from grace. 5 For through the Spirit we eagerly await by faith the righteousness for which we hope. 6 For in Christ Jesusneither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value. The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.

7 You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth?8 That kind of persuasion does not come from the one who calls you. 9 “A little yeast works through the whole batch of dough.” 10 I am confident in the Lord that you will take no other view. The one who is throwing you into confusion, whoever that may be, will have to pay the penalty. 11 Brothers and sisters, if I am still preaching circumcision, why am I still being persecuted? In that case the offense of the cross has been abolished.12 As for those agitators, I wish they would go the whole way and emasculate themselves!

Life by the Spirit

13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[a]; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[b] 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.